As you prepare for childbirth, you’re likely experiencing a rollercoaster of emotions. Amid the excitement, there’s also plenty of uncertainty—especially if you’re a first-time mom. Enter the doula: dedicated professionals who bring a wealth of knowledge, experience, and compassion to the birthing journey. Wondering if a doula is right for you? Keep reading to learn what doulas do, how to find your perfect doula match, and the positive impact they can have on your childbirth experience.
What Is a Doula?
A doula is a trained professional who provides emotional and physical support to parents before, during, or after childbirth. “Doula” comes from the ancient Greek word meaning “a woman who serves,” and they may be your biggest cheerleaders during labor and delivery, ensuring the goals of your birth plan are met. While doulas are typically associated with providing support during childbirth, doulas can also offer assistance during pregnancy and in the postpartum period.
Are There Different Types of Doulas?
Yes, different types of doulas can play different roles, depending on your specific needs:
- Birth or labor doulas. A birth doula offers continuous support to women (or both parents) during labor and childbirth. They provide guidance and comfort measures like massage, relaxation techniques, and position suggestions, as well as emotional encouragement. They advocate for the birthing parent’s preferences and desires for labor and delivery. While they cannot provide medical care or make medical decisions, they can play an essential role in helping parents have an informed, positive, and empowering birthing experience.
- Antepartum doulas. An antepartum doula supports mothers who have high-risk pregnancies, have been put on bed rest to prevent preterm labor, or are experiencing unmanageable pregnancy symptoms, like hyperemesis gravidarum. They also help manage household chores and childcare.
- Postpartum doulas. A postpartum doula supports families in the weeks and months following childbirth. They assist with newborn care, provide guidance on breast and bottle feeding, offer emotional support, and help with household tasks like cooking and light cleaning. Postpartum doulas work to ease the transition into parenthood and provide a nurturing environment for the whole family.
Doulas—while wonderful!—are not medical professionals and do not provide medical interventions or advice. They focus on providing holistic support to mothers and families during the transformative experience of pregnancy, childbirth, and the fourth trimester.
What Are the Differences Between a Doula and a Midwife?
Midwives are nurses with medical training in childbirth, and unlike doulas, they can prescribe medications and deliver babies during low-risk births. Midwives will help monitor your labor, can provide urgent care, and are even qualified to assist doctors during c-seconds. Doulas, on the other hand, are not medical professionals and can’t give medical advice or provide medical interventions. Their primary focus is to provide emotional and physical support and to advocate for the person laboring.
How Much Does a Doula Cost?
Like most services, the cost of hiring a doula can vary widely depending on several factors, including location, experience, and services offered. But on average, doula fees can range from a few hundred to several thousand dollars (remember that doulas aren’t typically covered by insurance, either). Here’s a breakdown of factors that can influence the cost of a doula:
- Location. If you reside in a city with a high cost of living, expect your doula fee to be more expensive.
- Experience and training. Doulas with specialized training, certifications, or unique expertise (like supporting high-risk pregnancies or specific cultural needs) will likely charge more.
- Included services. There’s a huge range of services that doulas can provide—some comprehensive packages include prenatal and postpartum visits, childbirth education, lactation consulting, or baby care classes. These packages cost more than basic services, like labor and delivery support.
- Number of visits. The number of meetings and hours of support a doula provides can affect the cost—doulas that offer more extensive support will typically have higher fees.
It’s worth researching and interviewing multiple doulas in your area to understand the average cost and services offered. Many doulas are flexible and open to discussing their fees, especially if you have budget concerns. Some communities even have volunteer doula programs or other organizations that offer affordable (or accessible) doula services to families in need.
Can Doulas Attend Hospital Births?
Doulas, for whatever reason, are often aligned with less traditional birth environments, like homebirths or birthing centers. But the truth is they can work anywhere you plan to deliver and can be especially comforting during hospital births. While hospital staff will change every 8-10 hours (that includes nurses and doctors), your doula will be by your side for the duration of labor and delivery. And if you’re a first-time mom, you’re more likely to labor longer (12 hours or more).
Using a Doula: Pros and Cons
Using a doula during childbirth and the immediate postpartum period has many benefits, but it’s important to consider both the pros and cons before deciding. Here’s a quick breakdown:
The Pros of Using a Doula
- Emotional support: Doulas provide continuous emotional support for mothers during labor and delivery—you are their focus, unlike other members of your medical team who will also be responsible for monitoring your baby. Doulas help parents feel more comfortable, informed, empowered, and less anxious during labor and birth.
- Physical comfort: Doulas may offer massage, suggest different positioning, and help with breathing techniques to manage pain and discomfort during labor.
- Information and education: Doulas will provide information about childbirth options and explain what occurs during different labor and delivery procedures so that you can make more informed decisions and feel more control over your birth experience.
- Advocacy: Doulas can help facilitate communication between you and the medical staff, ensuring your preferences are heard and respected during labor and childbirth.
- Fewer medical interventions: Research suggests that having a doula present during labor is associated with reduced rates of medical interventions, like c-sections and epidurals, shorter labor times, and increased breastfeeding.
- Postpartum support: Postpartum doulas offer practical assistance (the best kind of assistance, if you ask us) with newborn care, breastfeeding, and household tasks, so your first day home with your baby is a smoother transition.
The Cons of Using a Doula
- Cost: Doula fees are unlikely to be covered by your insurance plan, so it is an additional expense for your family.
- Availability: Your doula may only sometimes be available due to scheduling conflicts, or needing to attend another birth. Make sure you have a backup plan, just in case.
- Compatibility: It’s essential to find a doula whose approach, personality, and cultural competence align with your preferences and needs—compatibility plays an essential role in the effectiveness of their support.
- Expectations: Try to manage your expectations about what a doula can provide. While they can offer emotional and physical support, they cannot control the birth outcome or provide medical advice or interventions.
Before making any decision, take a moment to consider your own personal preferences, values, and the level of support you consider ideal during childbirth and the postpartum period.
How to Find a Doula
If you live in a city or large suburb, you’ll likely have many doula options—if you live somewhere more rural, your choices may be more limited. But the best way to find a doula is to ask friends, family, and your healthcare providers for recommendations. If you’re unable to find a doula through good word of mouth, sites like DoulaMatch and DONA International have directories listed by area, cost, and availability.
How to Choose a Doula
When you begin interviewing doulas, it’s essential to look for someone you really “click” with, someone who has a lot of compassion, and someone who will be able to communicate your birthing preferences. Childbirth is an intense and inherently stressful experience, and a doula will be with you every step of the way—you’ll want a great advocate who clearly understands your birth plan and puts you at ease.
Here’s our step-by-step guide to choosing a doula:
- Clearly define your needs and preferences.
- Decide which kind of doula you need: birth, postpartum, or both.
- Clarify your birthing goals, preferences, and any specific support you seek.
- Consider factors like cultural compatibility and personal values.
- Do your research.
- Utilize online doula directories, websites of certifying organizations, and parenting groups to find prospective doulas local to your area.
- Learn about their backgrounds, experience, training, and birthing philosophies online.
- Get recommendations.
- Ask friends, family, and healthcare providers for recommendations.
- Attend childbirth education classes, parenting groups, or local pregnancy and childbirth-related events where you may meet people who can recommend doulas.
- Interview multiple doulas.
- Reach out to several doulas who seem like they could be a good fit to set up interviews or consultations.
- Prepare a list of questions to ask during your interview (more on that, below). Focus on their approach, services offered, availability, and experience.
- Discuss their philosophy and approach.
- Discuss their philosophy regarding childbirth and their approach to supporting clients.
- Ask how they handle different birthing scenarios, complications, and unexpected changes to your birth plan.
- Evaluate compatibility.
- Consider how well you connect with the doula during the interview. Trust your gut and choose someone you feel comfortable with.
- Make sure their personality, communication style, and values align with yours.
- Discuss services and fees.
- Learn which services they provide, including prenatal visits, continuous labor support, postpartum visits, and any additional offerings.
- Discuss their fees, payment schedule, what’s included in the package, and if they offer refunds.
- Check references.
- Ask for references from previous clients, and contact them. You’ll gain much insight from hearing their experiences and understanding the doula’s effectiveness.
- Availability.
- Discuss their availability around your due date, and whether they have backup doulas just in case they aren’t available.
- Review your contract.
- Carefully review the doula’s contract or agreement. Make sure you understand all terms, cancellation policies, and any additional costs.
Your doula will play a significant role in your birthing experience, so take the time to find someone who will provide the exact kind of support you need, and foster a positive and empowering environment during this incredible moment in your life.
Questions for Prospective Doulas
Choosing a doula is incredibly personal. These questions can help you determine if a prospective doula is right for you:
- What inspired them to choose this profession?
- How long have they been a doula?
- Where did they receive training, and do they have any special certifications?
- How many births have they attended? Which types of births have they attended? (Home, hospital, birthing center, etc.)
- Are they always on call? If they’re attending another birth, is there a backup plan?
- How many clients are they working with at any given time?
- What is their philosophy on childbirth?
- What is their fee? What services does that fee include?
- Do they offer extra services?
- Do they support both medicated and unmedicated births? Why or why not?
- What will happen should you need a c-section?
- Do they have experience helping with breastfeeding?
- Will they be able to support all of your childbirth decisions?
- What techniques will they use to help you through labor?
- Do they offer postpartum services?
- What is their refund policy?
Embrace Your Birthing Journey with a Doula by Your Side
Choosing to include a doula in your childbirth experience can provide invaluable emotional and physical support, helping you navigate the uncertainties and joys of bringing your baby into the world. With the right doula, you can feel empowered, informed, and more at ease throughout labor, delivery, and beyond. As you consider your options, remember that the journey to finding the perfect doula is a personal one, reflecting your unique needs and preferences. By investing time in research and interviews, you can find a compassionate partner who will stand by your side, advocating for your birthing goals and providing the nurturing care you deserve. Embrace the opportunity to enhance your childbirth experience and create beautiful, lasting memories with the support of a dedicated doula.
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